^InsightsDivorce: Top 10 Things to Do, Change and Consider

Divorce marks a significant turning point in life, bringing about inevitable changes that require careful consideration and action. It’s a time when embracing change, rather than resisting it, becomes crucial. The process can be overwhelming, but with a methodological approach and an optimistic mindset, the journey through divorce can be navigated smoothly.

Top 10 “To-Do List”

1. Educate Yourself: Understand the divorce process through thorough research.
2. Take Responsibility: Acknowledge your role and responsibilities.
3. Collaborative Divorce Process: Avoid DIY divorces; start with a collaborative approach.
4. Focus on the Big Picture: Concentrate on significant issues, while letting go of minor ones.
5. Start a Divorce File: Keep all related documents organized.
6. Organize Financial Paperwork: This is critical for a clear financial picture.
7. New Email for Divorce Communications: Keep divorce-related communications separate.
8. Maintain Communication with Your Ex: Keep lines open, no matter the challenges.
9. Stay Focused on the End Goal: Keep your final objectives in sight.
10. . Redo Financial and Estate Plans: Update these to reflect your new status.

Top 10 “To Change List”

1. Change Passwords: Secure your online presence.
2. Banking and Credit Changes: Open new accounts in your name; close joint accounts.
3. Update Your Will: Reflect your new circumstances.
4. Change or Appoint a Guardian: If you have children, this is crucial.
5. Change Beneficiaries: Update details on all relevant policies.
6. Revoke Power of Attorney: If it was previously granted to your ex.
7. Update Representation Agreement: Change representatives if needed.
8. Consider Changing Professionals: Accountants, investment advisors, etc.
9. Health and Dental Coverage: Ensure you’re adequately covered.
10. . Update Marital Status with Employer and CRA: Reflect your current situation.

Top 10 Name Change Checklist after Divorce

1. Social Security Card
2. Passport and Nexus
3. Driver’s License, Vehicle Documents
4. Bank, Investment, Credit Accounts
5. Insurance Policies
6. Club Memberships
7. Utility Bills
8. Medical and Dental Records
9. Mortgages and Loans
10. . Voter Registration

Additional Considerations

• Find a Mental Health Professional: Specializing in divorce.
• Join a Divorce Support Group: Websites such as www.criclesup.com, www.meetup.com, www.mensgroup.com can be helpful.
• Hire a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) or a Chartered Financial Divorce Specialist (CFDS): For financial expertise. Visit websites such as www.afds.com or institutedfa.com for more information.
• Hire a Divorce Coach: Websites such as www.clairesutton.com and www.divorcerefined.ca offer guidance.
• Taking Back Your Maiden Name: Symbolize a new beginning. Helpful resources include www.easynamechange.com and newlynamed.com.
• Hire a Parenting Coordinator: To assist with parenting agreements and disputes. Visit www.gov.bc.ca for more information.
• Plan Before Dating: Websites such as www.goodhousekeeping.com offer tips for dating post-divorce.
• Hire a Personal Trainer: Maintain health and wellness during this transition. Visit www.thebestvancouver.com for options.
• Go on a Holiday: A solo trip can offer a significantly refreshing perspective.
• Learn to Say No (and Yes): Set boundaries and be equally open to new experiences.

Navigating through divorce can be challenging, but with the right tools and mindset, you can emerge stronger and better prepared for the next chapter in your life. When dissolving your marriage, remember to address the primary issues of property division, asset division, spousal support, child support, and custody. For assistance, Verus Financial offers support and a comprehensive list of professionals to guide you through all aspects of divorce. Contact us here or email us at info@verusfinancial.ca for more information.